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Family Lawyers in Ontario
If you are an access parent and you begin to notice a permanent change in the behavior of your child, it may be due to parental alienation. Our Ontario family lawyers are here to help if your relationship with your child is in jeopardy. We can advise you of your rights and options in this important matter.
Warning signs of parental alienation may include:
- The child’s withdrawal from the relationship;
- Complete isolation whereby he or she stops wanting to attend access visits; and
- You notice that he or she consistently sides with and supports the custodial parent.
Call our offices at (905) 581-7222 or continue reading to learn more about parental alienation.
Parental Alienation Defined
Parental alienation usually occurs because the custodial parent has been brainwashing or indoctrinating the child so as to eventually eliminate the access parent from his or her life. The motivation behind the custodial parent’s actions can vary, it can be for vengeance or financial gain. Justice Perkins, in the case of S. (C.) v. S. (M.) 2010 ONSC 340, provides a useful definition of parental alienation at paragraph 92 of his judgment:
“Children who are subject to the parental alienation syndrome (I will call them PAS children) are very powerful in their views of the non-alienating parent. The views are almost exclusively negative, to the point that the parent is demonized and seen as evil. [...] PAS children feel empowered and are rewarded for attacking the other parents and feel no remorse or shame for doing so. [...] PAS children have a knee jerk, reflexive response to support the alienator against the targeted parent, often on the basis of minimal evidence or justification. PAS children broaden their attacks to encompass members of the other parent’s extended family. [...] PAS children are recruited by the alienating parent and alienated siblings to the alienating parent’s cause. [...] With PAS children, you cannot be sure who you are listening to – is it the child, is it the alienating parent, or is it Court Watch [an advocacy group supporting the father]?”
Therefore, and based on this definition, if a parent continues to see or have access to the child on a regular basis, he or she will not be considered to be “alienated.” A child being disrespectful towards a parent, or an increase in arguments between parent and child is not “parental alienation.”
Reversing the Damage Caused by Parental Alienation
Once a child is diagnosed, he or she is said to suffer from parental alienation syndrome and the consequences flowing from such a diagnosis are that the parental-child relationship is deeply lost or altered. Therefore, it is absolutely necessary that if you feel alienated you must intervene and attempt to reverse the damage that has occurred.
There are numerous recourses available to you if you have been alienated:
- You may seek a court-ordered resolution (i.e. increased access or maybe even custody). Please note that this is expensive and requires a lot of evidence from objective third parties who can testify as to the nature of the relationship you shared with the child pre-alienation.
- You and your child may also seek counseling in the form of reunification therapy with a professional who is familiar with parental alienation.
- Another alternative is to unilaterally attempt to reverse the effects of alienation by maintaining consistent contact with your child (this is of utmost importance and should always be done when there is evidence of or suspicion of parental alienation). During this time you should try to engage in fun and conflict-free activities, avoid acting aggressively or attacking your child for his or her behavior, refrain from “bad-mouthing” the other parent, etc.
Understanding the Impact of Parental Alienation
Parental alienation can have a devastating impact on both the parent and the child involved. It can lead to strained relationships, emotional distress, and long-term psychological effects. Our team of experienced family lawyers understands the complexities of parental alienation and can provide guidance and support to help you navigate through this challenging situation.
Some of the effects of parental alienation may include:
- Emotional trauma for the child
- Strained parent-child relationships
- Legal implications for the alienated parent
- Long-term psychological effects
At Feldstein Family Law Group P.C., we are committed to helping families overcome the impact of parental alienation and work towards a resolution that is in the best interest of the child.
The Family Bridges Program
In the most extreme of cases, where the alienation is so severe that choosing one of these three options would be useless, the courts can order that your child participate in the Family Bridges program created by Dr. Richard Warshark or the Families Moving Forward program, a local organization that does the same type of work.
Under these programs, the alienated parent and child are sent to a hotel or a resort for four days of intensive therapy (64 hours of treatment) with two mental health professionals. During this time the child is able to spend time with the alienated parent, hopefully reconnect, and is taught to have a compassionate view of both parents as all parents make mistakes. The child is also taught the importance and benefit of having two parents present in his or her life at all times. This process, however, can be very expensive and in some cases, may cost approximately $20,000 (USD).
Protecting Your Child's Best Interests
When it comes to child custody, our team at Feldstein Family Law Group P.C. is dedicated to protecting the best interests of your child. We understand the complexities and emotional challenges that come with custody battles, and we are committed to providing compassionate and effective legal representation.
Our experienced family lawyers in Ontario are well-versed in handling cases involving parental alienation, and we are here to help you navigate through the legal process. Whether you are seeking to prevent or reverse the damage caused by parental alienation, we have the knowledge and resources to support you every step of the way.
At Feldstein Family Law Group P.C., we prioritize the well-being of your child and strive to find amicable solutions that promote a healthy co-parenting environment. Our team is ready to advocate for your rights and ensure that your child's needs are met.
Take the first step towards protecting your child's best interests and contact us today for a consultation. We are committed to providing you with the support and guidance you need during this challenging time.
For more information and guidance that relates to your specific situation, call our Ontario family lawyers at (905) 581-7222.
Andrew Feldstein Founder
Andrew Feldstein graduated from Osgoode Hall Law School in 1992. Prior to focusing exclusively on family law, Andrew’s legal practice covered many different areas, including corporate commercial. One of Andrew’s fundamental objectives is to achieve those goals mutually and collaboratively, as set out by him and his client.
Daphna Schwartz Lawyer
Daphna Schwartz joined Feldstein Family Law Group, P.C. in 2007 as an associate lawyer. She was previously practising family law in the Barrie area. Her practice includes all areas of divorce and family law, including custody and access, child support, spousal support, and property issues. Daphna is also qualified to practise Collaborative Family Law.
Anna Troitschanski Lawyer
Anna Troitschanski joined the team at Feldstein Family Law Group, P.C. in 2012. Prior to that, she practised Family Law at a boutique Newmarket firm. Her experience covers all areas of divorce and family law, including custody and access, child support, spousal support, and division of property.
Nick Slinko Lawyer
Nick Slinko attended York University from 2003 until 2007 where he majored in both Law & Society and Philosophy. Nick graduated in 2007 with an Honours Bachelor of Arts degree. He proceeded to earn a Juris Doctor in Law at the University of Western Ontario in 2011. Nick was Called to the Bar in June of 2012 after completing his Articling term with the Feldstein Family Law Group, P.C. He became an associate with the firm immediately thereafter.
Veronica Yeung Lawyer
Veronica Yeung joined the Feldstein Family Law Group, P.C. as a summer student in 2014 and returned as an articling student in 2015. Following her call to the Ontario Bar in June 2016, Veronica was welcomed to the team as an associate lawyer.
Veronica attended York University for her undergraduate studies and graduated as a member of the Dean’s Honour Roll when she obtained her Bachelor’s degree in Honours Criminology.
Shana Gordon-Katz Lawyer
Shana joined Feldstein Family Law Group P.C. as an articling student in 2017. Following her call to the Ontario Bar in June 2018, Shana was welcomed back to the firm as an associate. While completing her articles, Shana assisted with legal matters covering all areas of family law.
Shana attended the University of Western Ontario for her undergraduate studies, where she graduated as the gold medalist of her program, Honors Specialization in Classical Studies.
Rachel Zweig Lawyer
Rachel joined Feldstein Family Law Group P.C as a Summer Student in 2019 and returned as an Articling Student in 2020-2021. Following her Call to the Ontario Bar in April 2021, Rachel was welcomed back to the firm as an Associate.
Prior to completing her legal studies and obtaining her Juris Doctor at the University of Ottawa, Rachel obtained her Bachelor’s Degree at Ryerson University with a major in English Literature.
Lauren Harvey Associate Lawyer
Lauren joined Feldstein Family Law Group as a Summer Student in 2020 and returned as an Articling Student in 2021-2022. Following her Call to the Ontario Bar in April 2022, Lauren was welcomed back to the firm as an Associate.
Prior to completing her legal studies and obtaining her Juris Doctor at the University of Western Ontario, Lauren obtained her Honour’s Bachelor of Arts Degree at Wilfrid Laurier University majoring in Criminology and minoring in Law and Society.
Quinn Held Associate Lawyer
Quinn spent two years as a Summer Student and then completed her Articling term at a boutique Family Law firm in Orangeville, where she was exposed to various complex Family Law matters. Following her Call to the Bar of Ontario in June 2022, she became an Associate with the Feldstein Family Law Group.
Prior to obtaining her Juris Doctor from the University of Windsor, Quinn obtained her Honour’s Bachelor of Arts Degree at the University of Guelph majoring in Criminal Justice and Public Policy and minoring in International Development.