Should I Stay or Should I Go?
On the Fence About Your Marriage
Relationships have their ups and downs, and it’s normal to want some space at times. If you are on the fence about your marriage, the best thing to do is communicate with your spouse. Tell them what is bothering you, your concerns, and try to find common ground. If your spouse is unwilling to work on things, you might benefit from visiting a marriage counsellor together. Speaking with a professional third party about your marital problems might provide you both with a sense of clarity, and can promote communication, understanding, and compromise. You might also want to visit a counsellor independently. This can give you the opportunity to discuss your concerns and receive professional advice.
Ultimately, you do not want to force a decision. Clarity will come more easily if you relax and self-reflect. If you have children, you may also want to consider the impact that your marriage is currently having on them. If they are growing up in a tense environment, this may not be healthy for them. Also consider the impact that ending the marriage would have on them.
If you are leaning towards separation and divorce, visiting an experienced family lawyer can be helpful. They can let you know your options and discuss the process of separation and divorce with you. If you would like to take this step, book a free initial consultation with one of our family lawyers.